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sexuality in America

If you've just fallen in love
then one of you is totally hysterical, off the wall
and hungrier than a bear in springtime
while the other one is playing it cool,
slightly uncommitted and very cool
Or both of you are hysterical and the passion is great
because you're both doing something you shouldn't be doing
because the whole thing is taboo
and completely impossibe
(and thus totally exciting).
If you're in one that's well established
(read getting old)
you're probably not feeling loved enough
and fantasizing about all the romance and passion
everybody else is getting
when you see couples kissing on the street or in a bar
so you feel that you've been neglecting your emotional life
and that all your narcissistic needs are not being met.
If you're not in one
then you're probably still
grieving for one you can't have
In any of those cases
the healthiest path
is to satisfy the hunger for romance
any way you can without getting caught or arrested
while knowing that sort of
ravenous passion is temporary
and the more you can step back
and treat the person as a real person
the way you treat a friend
you will more likely be able to see that person
as a real person
and not project onto them
fantasies that have nothing to do with them
but everything to do with
your adolescent dreams.